marriage | Scared of Sacrifices ?

While in a discussion with a group of young men from Howard University, the topic of marriage and what marriage means to men. For some, women are pressured into the idea of marriage and/or start planning for their wedding years before they find their husband. However, these days, men nearly have to be dragged down the aisle. 

Why are some men so afraid of marriage? Shouldn't men be just as happy to start a new life with the one they love just as women are?

According to Cecoy Burnett, a Junior at Howard University, the thought of sacrifice and divorce allows some men to hesitate on marriage.

"Marriage. The idea is introduced to us at a very early age. Whether through media, or if we are lucky, by our parents who are still married. Girls grow up looking towards wedding day the way one looks towards a sky that was once cloudy but is now lit up by the mighty sun. 

Boys, well, it doesn't necessarily mean the same for us. Even though we too want a "married life," we think about all the things we have to sacrifice. We think about all the marriages we know and think about how most of them are now in turmoil. So we wish and hope we can just find someone who is ok with just living together and being content with that. Still, that is not realistic, because there is a little girl in every woman and she still wants her dream wedding.   

Marriage is the beginning of a new life and death of another. Every decision must now be made by two people (at least). The television can't spend all day on ESPN anymore unless one is the luckiest man in the world and his spouse also loves to watch ESPN. Time cannot be spent with "bros" the same way anymore.  The amount of things that change are infinite it seems. However, those changes are eventually made by a man serious and happy about his marriage with ease. 

The real problem is the fear that the woman will change. Now imagine a sweet little princess that seemingly just wants to make you happy, turning bitter  and suddenly seems to be the only reason you're unhappy. Would you want to get married if that was the visible trend in society? Naturally we get comfortable and complacent; time makes us do so. Comfort and complacency is one of the most ambiguous things in existence.  A certain level of it is necessary for one to get the best out of a person, but too much of it results in an undesirable being. "

What are your thoughts on Cecoy's opinion of marriage? Do you agree? Disagree?